Hey Vanessa, why are your blog and boutique named Love, Delphine?
It’s a question I am asked often, and the answer is a long one, so let’s snuggle up for story time, shall we?
Before I tell you about how my shop and blog got their name, I have to tell you about my own personal journey, and how I opened up my boutique.
I am a teacher by trade. After a brief stint as a social worker, I realized my true calling is to empower and teach, so I went back to school and got my Master’s degree in elementary education.
I taught kindergarten for a few years, and after my two sons were born, I took a couple years off to be a stay at home mama.
Out of the blue, my husband was let go from his job. There was no severance, no warning, nothing. We found ourselves extremely ill-prepared, and as he had been working for a non-profit in the education world, we weren’t exactly rolling in the dough.
It was summer time, we had two little kids, and I had an education degree. If you’re a parent, and you do the math there, my options as far as how to immediately contribute to my family’s income were limited. I found a job as an assistant at a lovely in-home preschool where she allowed me to bring my boys at a heavily discounted rate, enrolled in online community college to get my Early Childhood degree, and I decided to open up a preschool.
I found out I was pregnant a few months later. We hadn’t planned on a third child. I was due the week my preschool was slated to open. This wasn’t ideal. You know that phrase “all the feels”? Yeah.
I had a miscarriage.
I had a freaking miscarriage on a Disney cruise ship (no, we couldn’t get our money back) in the Carribean when my husband was in his fourth month of being unemployed, we hadn’t intended on getting pregnant in the first place, I had no doctor and no real insurance, and no cell phone service.
The night my miscarriage started, I saw Frozen for the first time. So now you know why, when everyone else rolls their eyes at Let It Go, I sometimes start bawling.
All the feels again.
My preschool was in operation for two years. I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, Emma Delphine, on my 35th birthday, in the fall of the second year of my preschool’s life.
Emma Delphine was born June 8, 2015, in about 2 hours, in the water, surrounded by rockstar nurses and midwives cheering me on like I was an Olympic athlete.
While I was blessed to be able to experience the exact birth I had hoped for, the deeper outcome of Emma’s birth was that I realized the truth behind the fact that when women are supported by other women, made to feel brave and beautiful and connected, it is the most healing and empowering and transforming gift.
I was now the mother of a daughter, and I now had a fire under my ass to empower as many females on the planet as I could.
Guess what I did? Yep. Went back for more trainings! I became a certified childbirth educator and doula.
While I was working on my certifications, I decided to sell LuLaRoe clothing on the side for a little extra income.
And a funny thing happened. That support and empowerment? That lifting women up to feel beautiful? The clothes were doing that!
I sold LuLaRoe for a year and decided to open up my own independent boutique.
A little boutique named Love, Delphine was bouncing around in my brain for a little while before the inception of this blog.
We knew that our daughter would be named after my grandmother, Hildegard Emma, one of my biggest cheerleaders in life, who passed away in 2011, and who visited me in a dream after my miscarriage. My grandma Hilda had two sons and then a daughter (my mom), and in this dream she told me to try again, that I had a daughter waiting for me.
The name Delphine came to me in a dream, too. I was pregnant with Emma, and a little girl visited me and asked to be named Emma Delphine. The dream was so vivid that I woke up knowing our daughter had chosen her own middle name.
I choose to work so that should our family ever need an income to fall back on, I am able to support us. I choose to work for myself so that I can make my own rules and my own hours. I wanted to name my business after my daughter, Emma Delphine, because I want her to see that everything I do, I do for her. I do it for the women of the world, I do it for the mothers and their children.
It is my firm belief that love always wins. I believe that when I empower a woman, when she feels beautiful and armed with knowledge, she will turn right around and do the same for another woman. There is strength in numbers, and I am a natural teacher. This is my mission, and this is my promise to Emma Delphine.